Why Marriage? | Weddingbee

Something in me just knew Mr. Dragon and I were destined for something bigger than the average run-of-the-mill relationship, almost from the start. I don?t know why or how, but part of me instinctively prepared itself for forever.

We had a close relationship right away, which is hard to believe given that we began dating two weeks after I arrived in town, and were officially a couple a week after that. Yep, I lived in my new home for less than a month before snagging me a boyfriend! It was maybe four months tops before I moved in with him, unofficially.

I moved in for real about seven months into our relationship, and we were working together through all that time, too. When Mr. Dragon took a job at a different company it actually felt weird to not be spending my workdays and evenings with him.

We?ve been together for over two years now and have spent, in total, less than a month?s worth of time apart from one another. It?s crazy to me, because usually I?m such an introverted hermit that all I want is alone time, but with us that?s not something I crave.

But why marriage? I mean, we were in a committed, long-term relationship prior to being engaged. We both agreed we were in it for the long haul, and in the eyes of the government, we were common-law spouses. Why take it a step further?

I can?t speak to Mr. Dragon?s reasoning, but I?ll share mine.

There?s something permanent about making wedding vows that speaks to me in a way I never really understood until I met Mr. Dragon. While neither one of us is going anywhere and we both know that, the fact that we?ll be legally bound is an added layer of security in my opinion. It?s not so easy to pack up and walk out the door when you?re married. It gives you something to protect, to work at, to cherish.

Another reason is the sense of family I?ll have when we are married. We are a family now, yes, the two of us and our cats, but marriage seems to be a rite of passage other people can really understand. I know we are already a family, without a wedding, but socially it might not look that way. It?s also important to both of us to be married before we have kids, for much the same reason?I don?t think the cats really care.

Personal photo / We are family, I got all my kitties with me?come on, you know the words.

There?s a gravity to marriage. Since we?ve been engaged I?ve thought about it a lot?particularly, how important vows are. We will be promising very big things in front of people who should and will hold us accountable. Declaring our intentions to the world puts a certain responsibility on us to uphold those vows.

I never pictured myself as a bride?if my friends wanted to play make-believe wedding, I took on the role of imaginary bridesmaid or imaginary officiant. I didn?t fantasize about the wedding of my dreams. In fact, I always had this idea in the back of my head that I?d travel the world and never settle down, or maybe find a partner but not get married, like my parents did. But now that I?ve met the person who I can?t live without, I crave that stability in a way that surprises me. There?s a calm steadiness in my life that I didn?t realize I was missing until it was present.

It?s a muddled up thing, marriage. I can plainly see why it?s so good for me, and for us, but if I asked Mr. Dragon I bet some of his reasons would be entirely different. If I asked every single married person in the world why they chose to be married, they?d all have a different answer.

I know it?s not right for everyone, but it?s right for us, and that?s the most important thing about this whole wedding-planning shebang. At the end of the day (well, hopefully by the middle of it) we?ll be husband and wife, and that is far more important than any other detail or plan that I could conjure up.

Did you know you were destined for marriage, or did it take you by surprise?

Source: http://www.weddingbee.com/2012/03/26/why-marriage-3/

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